{"id":963,"date":"2015-06-05T15:00:45","date_gmt":"2015-06-05T22:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/silverladder.com\/blog\/?page_id=963"},"modified":"2026-04-23T20:11:55","modified_gmt":"2026-04-24T03:11:55","slug":"my-journey-of-addiction-and-redemption","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/silverladder.com\/blog\/?page_id=963","title":{"rendered":"My Story"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was awakened by the sound of someone screaming.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t make out the words, but I didn\u2019t need to. The sound was unnerving enough without knowing what was being said. As I opened my eyes and adjusted to my surroundings, I was reminded once again where I was: jail. Suddenly, the sights, sounds, and yes, smells, came flooding back in to my head. With them came the cold reality of where I was, who I had become, and where my life had ended up.<\/p>\n

If being regularly jolted awake by the tormented screams of inmates in neighboring cells wasn\u2019t bad enough, there was the fact that I was sharing a cell designed for a single inmate with three other people. We were crowded four deep in a tiny cell, and there was no escaping the smell. To call it unpleasant would be putting it lightly. It was overpowering.<\/p>\n

As my eyes adjusted to the light, I looked at the bottom of the bunk above me. On it was a hurricane of words\u2026 angry, unstable words, scratched into the metal bed frame by those who had been there before me. The words sounded a lot like the things that many of the people around me uttered every day. This was an insane place, and for the time being, it was home.<\/p>\n

\"Durango<\/a>

Durango Jail Exterior<\/p><\/div>\n

In that moment, my mind jumped back once again to the decisions that had brought me here, and the people who had been hurt because of my choices. I said to myself, \u201cYou had so many loving people in your life, but this time you\u2019ve lost them. You had every good thing that anyone could ask for, and you threw it all away because of your actions.\u201d I thought about the person I had become and the downward spiral I had traveled for so long. I thought to myself, \u201cHow did I get here?\u201d<\/p>\n

I got started down the road to substance use in middle school for a few reasons. I was a scared, awkward kid who desperately wanted to be liked, but didn\u2019t quite fit the mold that everyone else was in. I was definitely different, and not always in a way that was seen as good. I wasn\u2019t even remotely comfortable in my own skin. So I thought I\u2019d win my peers\u2019 approval and acceptance by drinking. In addition to that, I was curious to see what it was like. Finally, there were some people I looked up to who had substance use issues of their own, and they seemed completely happy and successful. So, while I had been told about the dangers of drugs and alcohol, what I had seen conveyed a very different message.<\/p>\n

The first time I drank, one of the worst things that could have possibly happened did happen: nothing. I don\u2019t mean that the alcohol didn\u2019t affect me. I mean that there weren\u2019t any immediate consequences, at least that I could notice. After having been told what drugs and alcohol would do to me, I was anticipating some kind of instant lightning bolt of consequence. When nothing seemed to go wrong, I thought, \u201cThere\u2019s no price to pay for this. I just did it and I\u2019m fine. The world didn\u2019t end. They lied to me about this.\u201d I’ve since learned something very important about consequences. There is a consequence for every negative or unhealthy decision we make, but they don’t always happen immediately and we don’t always notice them right away. Sometimes they don’t become apparent until much later, and sometimes they chase you down the road years later.<\/p>\n

I noticed that when I drank, everything seemed to get better. My pain seemed to go away. I was dealing with bullying and feeling very out of place in junior high, and when I drank, I quit feeling the sadness from that. It seemed to allow me to finally be comfortable in my own skin. I didn\u2019t realize that the feeling was a lie. When I got into high school, alcohol was a lot easier to get, and I started using it as a way to deal with my problems. My alcohol use became much more frequent and I started drinking larger quantities. I didn\u2019t realize how much worse I was making things for myself. None of it seemed like a big deal at the time. Alcohol then gave way to marijuana, nitrous oxide (Whip-Its), and some initial experimentation with prescription drugs.<\/p>\n

\"My<\/a>

My junior year yearbook photo<\/p><\/div>\n

By the time I was a freshman in college, I was using marijuana daily and drinking frequently. Later in college I got caught in the web of opiate painkillers after a friend with a prescription gave me some oxycodone. After I started on painkillers, the floodgates opened. The feeling from opiates was a step beyond alcohol in my quest to escape my pain, disintegrating relationship, and my growing dislike for myself. Somehow I miraculously made it through college with a decent GPA and managed to get my degree. I\u2019m still not completely sure how I managed that.<\/p>\n

Shortly after college, I got into ecstasy and cocaine. I developed a huge cocaine habit that eventually led me to getting into meth, once the cocaine ceased being effective. Right around the same time, my painkiller addiction led to heroin after it became impossible to get legitimate prescriptions and expensive to buy illicit opiate pharmaceuticals. Alcohol was there all along, in ridiculously excessive quantities. Eventually, I became willing to use just about any substance that happened to cross my path. When someone asked what my drug of choice was, I laughingly quoted the Alice in Chains song \u201cJunkhead.\u201d \u201cWhat\u2019s my drug of choice? Well, what have you got?\u201d<\/p>\n

My life was a mess. I lost jobs due to absenteeism, quit other jobs due to an inability to focus, and eventually stopped trying to get jobs. I drained a $10,000 bank account on my addiction. I had nothing to show for it but increasing health problems. There was alcohol poisoning. There were overdoses. There was one particular overdose involving a combination of cocaine, meth, alcohol, and fentanyl (a powerful synthetic opioid) that was absolutely hellish and insane. To this day, it surprises me that I made it through that one. My behavior was erratic and I became angry and unpredictable. At one point, coke and meth made me a 130lb skeleton. At a later point, alcohol made me a 215lb slug.<\/p>\n

This went on for years. I lost my 20\u2019s and the better part of my 30\u2019s. I wanted to stop but was so caught up in it all. I was making all kinds of bad decisions. I\u2019m responsible for my own choices, but addiction and the damaged thinking that comes with it makes it a whole lot easier to make bad choices. Eventually I was no longer using to feel good, but to not feel horrible. I was drinking and using purely out of addiction and the need to avoid withdrawal. Guilt and shame kept me running back to drugs and alcohol, which led to behavior that caused me guilt and shame. It was an endless cycle.<\/p>\n

I ended up jobless for a long time, and thousands of dollars in debt. My thinking and brain chemistry were so overwhelmed by the substances to which I was a slave. I came to a point where I hated myself and said, \u201cI\u2019m never coming back from this. I\u2019ve done too much damage. I\u2019m going to ride this train until it crashes.\u201d The last night I drank and used, I went on a rampage. I hurt people who didn\u2019t deserve it, smashed up my own house, and eventually attempted to end my own life. I was arrested and charged with multiple felonies. If I had been convicted of everything I was charged with, I was looking at the possibility of a doing few years in the Arizona Department of Corrections.<\/p>\n

\"My<\/a>

My mugshot from 11\/28\/11<\/p><\/div>\n

That\u2019s what led to me serving time in Durango Jail, part of Sheriff Joe Arpaio\u2019s notorious Maricopa County Jail system. While in jail, I went through hellish withdrawals. The extent of the jail\u2019s acknowledgement of my withdrawal consisted of giving me a bottom bunk, so I would be less likely to get a concussion if my withdrawals led to a seizure that ended up with me falling out of bed. I suffered horrible insomnia and only managed to occasionally sleep for about 15 minutes at a time. It was less like sleeping and more like passing out. I genuinely felt like I was going insane. I went through a combination of the worst physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual pain I’ve ever felt. I genuinely believed that I had lost everyone and everything I loved and cared about. I found myself at a nearly unbearable low point.<\/p>\n

I became willing to do anything to repair the damage I had done, but wasn\u2019t sure that such repair would even be possible. While in the midst of this, I somehow found a tiny bit of sanity, which allowed me to make myself a promise to make my faith, my family, and my sobriety my priorities. A fellow inmate named Troy gave me a Bible, which I started reading. It was a welcome escape and was the only thing that gave me any kind of hope in those moments. I latched on to that Higher Power and never let go.<\/p>\n

I eventually bailed out while my case was pending, and I moved into a place called the Phoenix Dream Center. It\u2019s a live-in facility where people who have had substance use issues, people who have been in jail and prison, people who have been homeless, former gang members, and survivors of human trafficking can move in and get their lives back together. A lot of good growth and healing started for me there, but it wasn\u2019t easy.<\/p>\n

In a lot of ways, the Dream Center is harder than jail. Our days started at 4 a.m. and ended at 11 p.m. Every moment was scheduled for us and included intense morning workouts (run by a former pro rugby star), classes, janitorial work, maintenance work, labor, homeless outreach, church, etc. We were run ragged, but the discipline, structure, and purpose were what I (and the others there) needed as part of a successful recovery.<\/p>\n

While in the Dream Center, I poured myself back into my faith, which remains a key component of my recovery today. I started communicating again, instead of trying to run from my problems. I made exercise and nutrition a big part of my life. I started creating art and writing again. I started to laugh again. I gained back my self-respect and others\u2019 trust. As a result of the changes that began there, I was able to restore my marriage; something I hoped would happen but didn\u2019t know was possible.<\/p>\n

In court, the prosecutor was seeking 90 days of jail time for me, and the Probation Presentence Writer wanted me to do six months. I didn\u2019t want either to happen, as they could delay the good work that had begun in my marriage, and in my growth as a person. I accepted a plea deal. Based on what I said and others said at my sentencing, the judge said that he didn\u2019t see any benefit to me serving additional time. To this day, I am grateful he listened to me and to the others who spoke. I was sentenced to two years supervised probation. I was assigned 46 weeks of one type of counseling and 15 weeks of another. I was given a permanent (\u201cdesignated\u201d) felony and lost my rights as an American citizen. I paid thousands of dollars in court fines and fees. I was given a 10 p.m. curfew. I was randomly drug tested.<\/p>\n

Under really interesting circumstances, I ran into a guy who overheard part of my story and told me I should apply to be a substance use Peer Educator at a local prevention nonprofit called notMYkid. I did. In January of 2013, I started there as a part-time youth Peer Educator and worked as hard as I could. I spoke in schools across Arizona, sharing the experience and knowledge I learned during my journey with students in 6th through 12th grade. I decided to be as open and honest as I could about my past in order to help prevent others from taking the same path. I did everything I was asked to do and took on additional duties. I was relentless and determined in my efforts. Within the first three months, they made me full time. Four months later, I was given a staff position, and became the organization\u2019s first Communications Coordinator.<\/p>\n

I was then promoted to Manager of Parent and Faculty Education for the organization and eventually became a Prevention Specialist. I researched several behavioral health topics and created presentations for parents, school faculty members, after school program mentors, and camp counselors. I have also recruited, hired, trained, and managed several Parent and Faculty Educators, who are primarily behavioral health professionals and current or former law enforcement officers. I’ve done numerous student\/youth presentations on substance use, bullying, and a combination topic of depression, self-injury, and suicide. I also did several parent and faculty presentations on substance use, bullying, depression\/self-injury\/suicide, prescription drug misuse, and Internet safety. I also did TV, radio, web, and print interviews as the organization\u2019s representative. I\u2019ve done approximately 100 interviews in the last few years, including live TV appearances in New York, Boston, Dallas, Denver, and Kansas City. Those interviews have included the “Today” show, “Good Day New York,” “Kansas City Live,” NECN Boston, and WFAA Dallas.<\/p>\n

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My appearance on the “Today” show<\/p><\/div>\n

\"Being<\/a>

Being interviewed by Catherine Anaya on the AZ Daily Mix<\/p><\/div>\n

I traveled around Arizona doing speaking engagements, sharing my personal story intertwined with teachable keys to behavioral health. I\u2019ve had the opportunity to share my story with students and government officials in Boston, students and parents in California, and parents in Kansas City. I\u2019ve spoken to groups as small as five people and as large as 1,000. I\u2019ve done as many as seven one-hour presentations back-to-back. I\u2019ve had the chance to address the Pinal County Drug Court, sharing my story and thoughts on the way government and the courts view addiction. I\u2019ve presented at Grand Canyon University, Arizona State University, Paradise Valley Community College, and a number of corporations, Including American Express, Cox, Intel, and Insight. As of 2026, I\u2019ve done over 600 presentations to an audience of over 100,000 people<\/a>. Approximately half of my presentations have been given to youth, and the other half to adults.<\/p>\n

\"On<\/a>

On stage shortly before sharing my story with 800 students at Apache Junction High School<\/p><\/div>\n

I also had the opportunity to do interviews for a historic documentary called \u201cHooked: Tracking Heroin\u2019s Hold on Arizona,\u201d<\/a> which was simulcast on every TV station (and most radio stations) in Arizona on January 13th, 2015. Additionally, I was appointed to the Recovery and Response Subcommittee responsible for developing, staffing, and overseeing the crisis line phone bank taking calls during and after the airing of the documentary. I also served on the Recovery and Response Subcommittee tasked with overseeing the crisis line response for the sequel documentary called \u201cHooked Rx,\u201d which aired in early 2017.<\/p>\n

In October of 2015, I had the chance to become an ASIST (Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training) trainer. As a registered trainer, I have since had the honor of facilitating two-day suicide intervention workshops, and teaching genuinely lifesaving intervention skills to people around the state of Arizona. It has allowed me to combine my personal experience with the topic, and my passion for helping others, with the well-designed material that has become the industry standard (crisis lines, military, fire departments, police departments) for suicide intervention. I have since used my experience and training to help multiple different people who were struggling with thoughts of suicide. The opportunity has been nothing short of a blessing.<\/p>\n

In 2016, I was made co-facilitator on an early intervention program for preteens and teens dealing with mild to moderate substance use issues. About a year into my time with the program, I was made lead facilitator. I then went on to manage the program and facilitate multiple monthly groups in Scottsdale and Tempe. It’s an incredibly positive, non-shaming, non-punitive, educational and inspirational program that has helped hundreds of local families not only get their teens back on a healthy path, but learn to communicate with one another in an intentional, proactive, and respectful way. I got to see families, who sometimes aren’t even speaking to one another at the beginning of the first session, reconnect with one another and rise above the issues that have been challenging them.<\/p>\n

In September of 2019, I had the opportunity to begin hosting and producing a weekly podcast called “Win This Year.” The show was focused on prevention, mental health, behavioral health, parenting, and other related topics.<\/p>\n

\"On<\/a>

On stage at a local school<\/p><\/div>\n

Most importantly, recovery has allowed me the opportunity to become the type of husband, son, and friend I should have been all along and has given me the chance to be a very good dad to an amazing daughter who was born shortly after my one-year sober date. I give thanks every day for the fact that I got clean and sober before having a child. I owe it to her and my wife to have my act together. Every moment with my daughter is a gift that I never thought I would get. If you had told me when I was in jail that my life would be like this right now, I wouldn’t have believed you though I would have desperately wanted to.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m thankful for every chance I get to help other people, to let individuals who are struggling know that they\u2019re not alone, and to destroy the stigma and stereotypes surrounding addiction and recovery. I take every opportunity I get to help people understand that addiction is not a failure of morality, but a behavioral health issue.<\/p>\n

\"Sharing<\/a>

Sharing my sobriety progress photos with a group of local middle school students<\/p><\/div>\n

If you are struggling, please speak up. Find a trusted, caring, non-judgmental, willing, and ready person and let them know what’s going on. Things can get better, but not until you make the choice to change and move forward. Get connected with local professional resources that can assist you in your recovery. If the situation calls for it, detox correctly and go through residential treatment. If not, consider an intensive outpatient program, or at least 12-step meetings.<\/p>\n

Find what works for you, and do it. Surround yourself with positive and caring people who are mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy. Create a support network. Fill your phone with the phone numbers of those on whom you can call when you’re struggling– even if it’s two in the morning. Practice intentional and consistent self-care that includes healthy coping skills and positive outlets. It’s not enough to just NOT use drugs and alcohol, but it’s important to figure out what to replace them with. For me, that includes things like music, writing, art, exercise, hiking, serving others, laughter, meeting new people, and experiencing new things. Find your recipe for success and then make a point to put those pieces in place every single day.<\/p>\n

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November 29th, 2025 marked 14 years of personal recovery for me, thanks to the grace of Jesus Christ and the incredible support shown to me by those around me. I\u2019m grateful to even be alive and amazed at the wonderful opportunities I\u2019ve been given. Every morning when I wake up, I give thanks for the tremendous amount of grace I\u2019ve been shown. I\u2019m astounded at how much my life has managed to change for the better in that short amount of time.<\/p>\n

In June of 2022, I resigned from notMYkid.\u00a0 I will forever be grateful for the nine years of opportunities the organization gave me, the wonderful people I had the chance to work with, the memories I made along the way, and the fact I got to see so many lives saved and changed for the better.\u00a0 However, I know my work in the field is not done.\u00a0 I immediately began freelancing and continued my work after leaving the organization.\u00a0 I remain very active in the field.<\/p>\n

In March 2024, Silverladder became an LLC with a focus on mental and behavioral health education, recovery coaching for those in recovery or wanting to be in recovery, and family support for those looking to help addicted loved ones.\u00a0 This includes presentations, peer support consulting, family support consulting, blog posts, videos, inspirational and educational content, and a podcast<\/a>.\u00a0 I am still speaking publicly, sharing my story of addiction and recovery to help others, as well as educating both youth and adults on a variety of mental and behavioral health topics.<\/p>\n

A big part of the reason I left nMk was to spend as much time as I had remaining with my parents.\u00a0 Not long after I resigned, my dad was diagnosed with stage four cancer.\u00a0 I made him and my mom a priority and a focal point in my life, helping with his care.\u00a0 That included driving him to and from the hospital, doctor’s appointments, the store, etc.\u00a0 When cancer limited what he was able to do physically, I became his hands and feet to help him complete projects he wanted done, yard work, repairs, renovations, etc.\u00a0 I wanted to return as much autonomy, free will, and control, to someone whose life undoubtedly felt very out of control.<\/p>\n

My dad passed away on May 19th, 2023. I am grateful I was able to be present, available, and reliable for him in his final days.\u00a0 One of the many gifts of recovery is that my dad got to see me not only get sober, but become a loving, involved father myself, create a body of work, launch a career, find joy and peace, and thrive as a human being.\u00a0 Recovery allowed me to practice acceptance of my dad’s situation, make the most of the time we had together, and not waste one moment in denial or regret.\u00a0 For that, I will always be grateful.<\/p>\n

Thank you for taking the time to allow me to share my story with you. I hope it benefits you in some way.<\/p>\n

-Shane<\/p>\n

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