Dad, husband, public speaker, individual in long-term recovery, follower of Jesus Christ, and a nine-year veteran of the youth mental health field.  I recently walked away from a position where I spent nearly a decade doing what I loved.  Currently figuring out what the next chapter of my life is going to look like as I approach half a century spent on this planet.  There are a whole lot things I could do, but I’m trying to narrow down what I’m supposed to do.

It would be accurate to call me an ENFJ.


Music (I own approximately 3,000 records, 2,500 CDs and 80,000 mp3s), fitness and nutrition, psychology, helping others, public speaking, camping, writing, hiking, mountain climbing, wandering, boxer dogs, black coffee, documentaries, nonfiction books (especially music bios, military memoirs, and true crime), the surreal, the cryptic, the supernatural, art, rain (especially in the desert), laughter, experience, possibility, love.

If I could only have 12 albums to listen to for the rest of my life, they would be:

1. Grant Lee Buffalo – “Mighty Joe Moon”
2. U2 – “Achtung Baby”
3. The Police – “Ghost in the Machine”
4. R.E.M. – “Automatic for the People”
5. Sting – “Nothing Like the Sun”
6. Sting – “The Soul Cages”
7. The Beatles – “Help!”
8. Idris Muhammad – “Power of Soul”
9. David Sylvian – “Gone to Earth”
10. The Ramones – “Leave Home”
11. Al Kealoha Perry and his Orchestra – “Hawaii Calls: Favorite Instrumentals of the Islands”
12. Frank Sinatra – “Sinatra Reprise: The Very Good Years”

Favorite Movies:

12 Monkeys, Groundhog Day, Blast from the Past, THX-1138, Help! (The Beatles),Office Space, Napoleon Dynamite, The Jerk, Goonies, Big Fish, Wizard of OZ, 1408 (tape recorder ending only), Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory

Favorite Quotes:

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” –John Lennon (“Beautiful Boy”)

“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.”
–Archie Griffin (origin disputed)

“I’ve always suffered from being somewhere and wanting to be somewhere else.” –Shannon Hoon (Blind Melon)

“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.” –Jack Kerouac

“Never, “for the sake of peace and quiet,” deny your own experience or convictions” –Dag Hammarskjold

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” –John Q. Adams

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.” –Malcolm Forbes, Publisher

“I see myself as an intelligent, sensitive human, with the soul of a clown which forces me to blow it at the most important moments.” –Jim Morrison

“How do you measure success? To laugh often, and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a redeemed social condition, or a job well done; to know even one other life has breathed because you lived this is to have succeeded.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hello, my name is Shane. Nice to meet you.

  1. Off the top of my head as they came to me…

    The Jesus and Mary Chain / Psychocandy

    The Sisters of Mercy / First and Last and Always

    Underworld / Dubnobasswithmyheadman

    The Pixies / Doolittle

    Dr. Dre / The Chronic

    Hot Chip / One Life Stand

    Rolling Stones / Some Girls

    The Who / Quadrophenia

    Led Zeppelin / Physical Graffiti

    Jimi Hendrix / Electric Ladyland

    I could live with that. Forever…

  2. Hey Shane, nice to “meet” you. I just stumbled across your blog and had to comment on the ENFJ typing – I’m an INFJ – there aren’t many E/I NFJs out there, so it’s cool to come across one, especially one who can relate to struggles with addiction. Looking forward to checking our more of your blog.

    • Faith,

      Nice to meet you as well. Thank you for the comment. Indeed, I don’t run into too many other *NFJs out there. Did you find the blog through my recent feature on the Recovery Revolution?

  3. Hi,

    My name is Paul Fuhr – I’m a writer who’s currently helping Anna David (www.annadavid.com) with a project. She’s named your blog as one of the very best sources for powerful, insightful recovery writing out there. In fact, Anna would like to spotlight/feature your blog. Could you provide me a few sentences on why you started your blog, what it means to you and (perhaps) what you’ve gotten out of it since you started it?

    If you could shoot me your thoughts in the next week, I’d really appreciate it.

    Please let me know if you have any questions.

    Paul Fuhr

  4. Hey Shane,
    I have an odd question. Did you run this blog around 2002/3? For an English Assignment in 7th grade, I had to memorize a poem and read it to our class. Somewhere in the crevices of my brain, twenty years later, I woke up and pulled out “Silver Ladder.” I believe the poem was called Every Little Bit. Do you remember if this is a poem you’d written? If so, I’d love to read it again. Assuming you check this blog at some point between now and forever. Anyway, thanks for sharing your creativity with the world. Hope all’s well.

  5. Mark, Hi there! Yes, that was on my site. I’ll have to see if I can find it in my archives. If I do, I’ll send it to you. I can’t find that title in the lyrics I have up for 2002 or 2003 right now, though the phrase rings a bell.


    If you go there and select the drop-down menu, you can check the lyrics from 2002 and 2003 and see if you can find it.

    Thank you for your message! Sorry it took so long for me to reply. I clearly don’t log into the blog very often anymore.

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